Sales Wound #2: The Love & Money Wound™
Overview of The Love & Money Wound™
The core self-limiting belief of the Love & Money Wound™ is, “Love & money are wrapped up together in many of my most intimate relationships, both present and past. So money is never just about money, and love is never just about love. To get one, especially in abundance, I must go without some aspect of the other.”
What drives this Wound is the fear that you can’t have both money and love, freely and in abundance.
Put another way, you fear that you can never have both FINANCIAL support, safety and security as well as EMOTIONAL support, safety and security.
This Wound is about power and control. It asks the question, "How do I create safety for myself, using a combination of money and relationships?"
Whichever version of the Love & Money Wound™ you're driven by, there is help for you in the tools and resources on this page.
Heal the Love & Money Wound™
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The 5 other Sales Wounds™
_ How to Heal The Love & Money Wound™
Sometimes the Only Way Out
... is Straight Through
If what you're suffering from is a Love & Money Wound™, there's no quick fix.
Frankly, we're all - every one of us - suffering from some form or other of Love & Money Wound™. By reading & watching the case studies below, I'm sure you'll recognize yourself (and other people you know!) in one or more of them, and start to see what I mean.
The question is, are you at a point in your life where you're ready to dig into the deep, difficult work of unearthing your oldest and most self-limiting beliefs?
Because that's what the Love & Money Wound™ is. It's a way of describing the unique set of beliefs you developed as a baby and small child about what it means to be loved and cared for. To feel safe.
A Love & Money Wound™ Isn't Always a Bad Thing
For some of us, those beliefs - inaccurate though they may be - are working for us, more or less. We've managed to create a life that operates according to those beliefs, and the outcome is one we're happy with. Or at least content. Or at least not compelled to try and change.
But then there are those of us who find that these old patterns and belief systems are simply no longer working. The choice at that point is either struggle (scream, cry, complain, feel sorry for yourself ...) or change.
Healing Your Love & Money Wound™ Is Never Voluntary
The compulsion to change - to heal your Love & Money Wound™ - always happens as the result of significant changes in your life circumstances. It's never something we take on voluntarily. It's just too hard.
The circumstances that compel you to finally start to heal are typically around how you've set yourself up to receive love (emotional support) and/or money (material support):
... you get divorced, your life savings evaporates overnight, a parent dies, a tragedy befalls your family or community, a deep dark secret about love or money is revealed, you (or your spouse) is fired unexpectedly from a long-term job that you thought would always be there ...
Whatever the cause, it makes you confront the reality that your old way of feeling loved and cared for isn't going to work to keep you safe anymore. You need a new story.
I Can Help You Write a New Story
It's not something you can fix overnight. But the tools in my toolkit are powerful. With my help, you can write a new story for yourself - and return to feeling safe, loved & provided for - far quicker than you ever thought imaginable.
“As valuable as our business-building sessions were, I found the healing & blockage removal sessions to be even more so.”
Vania Clark Butler
I knew you were a sales & marketing expert; but what I additionally value is the spiritual side of what you do. I have found the healing sessions and blockage clearing to be as valuable as the business building work that we’ve done. I’m amazed by the vastness of what you bring to the table. There wasn’t one issue, doubt or problem you weren’t able to help me with. I know I'll be continuing to work with you, even though my 6 month program has ended.
_Learn More About The Love & Money Wound™
Like a lot of people, Lisa was suffering from more than one Wound. This article is about how the Love & Money Wound™ showed up in Lisa’s marriage; and her fears about how it might be affecting her business today.
The roots of this Wound are deep in our early childhood, and it forms the basis of how we give and receive love in the world. So unless your Love & Money Wound™ has been dealt with (usually through therapy), your life is currently built around your Wound, it's very difficult to see it in yourself.
One exception is if this Wound was a factor in your PAST relationships. So today we’re going to look at the archetype of the Rich Housewife, through the lens of a woman named Heidi Knoderer. Heidi is a 60-something professional woman living in Guadalajara, Mexico with 4 grown children and 2 ex-husbands.
Get Unstuck by Confronting The REAL Cause of Your Blockages
Today we're talking about why you're stuck, whatever stuck means to you.
What I'm going to be talking about today is that the reason you keep being stuck is that the things you are trying to change are not the things that need to change. The things we try to change - what we're willing to change - are by definition the things that are easy for us to change.
But that isn't what's keeping us stuck! Instead, we have to be looking at the ways that our circumstances, the people around us, the World At Large, the universe, is trying to get us to change the things that actually matter. The things we don't want to change. The things we are holding on for dear life to stay the same.
And I'm not just lecturing here today, I'm struggling with this right along with you, I'll be sharing the story of what happened right here on my Facebook wall, this past weekend, and the lessons that I am being forced to learn as a result.
I booked a $1200 client the day after my Sales Wounds™ Deep Dive with Julia.
Umoh Luna
Before working with Julia I did a ton of training on sales but was still really struggling with it and asking for the sale. I know am extremely good at what I do but I used to be really stuck around selling it. The issues we touched on were ones I'd been aware of before; but nothing before actually CLEARED the problem.
I realized it wasn't about me not knowing how to sell, it was about me not selling because of some deep internal blocks were I didn't feel safe doing it. In just one hour with Julia I had a profound shift.
